squigglydigglydoo:

ectoimp:

squigglydigglydoo:

rubyfruitgirl:

talkupditings:

speedwag:

society needs shame. if you dont embarrass weird greasy kids in high school they turn into adults who walk their girlfriends around on dog leashes in the mall

Nothing wrong with that as long as there’s Mutual consent

did you know that bystanders literally do not consent to being a part of public sexual displays

being shamed fucking sucks, but it’s necessary for folks to know there’s a line that shouldn’t be crossed

I’m saying this as somebody who nearly went off the deep end with my embarrassing weaboo-ness in middle school. I thank God every day that I was given a rude awakening that literally nobody could relate to me because of my wilful hyperfixation and lack of attempts to expand my horizons

…not having friends cause you were the weird weaboo kid is not the same as OP
saying that bullying is good.  ‘greasy kids’ could literally be poor kids whose familys cant afford soap. Or just teens thats hormones make them greasy. Like normal.

And the weird hyper fixation phase is a normal part of growing up. Heres how it goes:
Middleschool thru Highschool: The hyperfixation phase (this phase is lengthened slightly into college if they havent joined the work force.) This is an important phase where children start to try and build an identity for themselves.

Early to mid 20s: The backlash phase. Angry at whatever the hyperfixation was and people that are still in that phase due to personal shame of ‘having been that’. Intense need to prove that they are better then that and a ‘real adult’

Late 20s early 30s: Moved past the anger and realize its just kids being kids and its best to leave them alone to grow up. May have nostalgia for the hyperfixation phase

Notice that most of tumblr tends to fall in between phase one and two, hence the intense arguments on this site. Fighting with the hyperfixation phase people doesnt fix it, them getting out in the real world with jobs will correct the issue on its own.

And as far as actual gross people with no boundaries. Those people wont change no matter how much you try and ‘shame’ them. Chances are your reaction just turns them on more. They know damn well where the boundaries are, they are just terrible and dont care.

I see what you’re getting at here, but… the point isn’t that bullying is good. bullying is really fucking bad and can leave some serious trauma. (hello, I’ve had some experience with that and boy can I talk about it, but we’re not here for that)

the point is that people who blatantly ignore societal standards and are sheltered enough from them to avoid them entirely need to be put into situations where those standards are staring them in the face.  they need to be confronted with “hey, picking my nose and eating it isn’t normal.”  or “hey, talking incessantly about my anime waifu and running around with cat ears on isn’t gonna score me any social points.”  or “hmm, I’m noticing that choosing not to shower – not because of any financial situation but because of personal choice – is making people avoid me.”

people need shame.  they need to be embarrassed from time to time.  literally EVERYBODY needs to be taken down a notch now and then.

yeah, there are absolutely phases that people will naturally grow out of… but it’s not as though their age suddenly flips a switch.  As people get older, they have more experiences, and it’s these experiences that cause them to grow… and it’s in these experiences that they will come face to face with necessary shame.

nobody’s saying people need to be tarred, feathered, and run out of town in front of a laughing crowd.  what we’re saying is that people need to be faced with the reality that what’s in their brains isn’t always gonna agree with what’s in the real world, and if they want to be accepted by the real world, something’s gotta give.